August 17, 2008

• BF Depending On Your Wallet & Wardrobe
  
  What I’d overheard from a woman behind me speaking to someone on her mobile phone while queuing in Subway in London:

  “So we went out and it was alright. He’s a funny guy, don’t get me wrong, he’d made me laugh but I don’t see him as potential boyfriend material. He’s not financially stable and I don’t like the way he dresses. He’s a sweet guy so I’ll like to keep him as a friend.”

  In a previous post, I’d wrote about how some women see men’s choice of footwear serve to be a potential dealbreaker. It seems like the size of his wallet and his taste in fashion matter too.

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  Amusing Blog

  This is a post I’d pulled from a blogger calling herself “somekoreanchick”

  Why I Will Never Date A White Guy: Asian Girl/White Guy Not For Me
  
  ** Disclaimer: This might offend some people. And if it DOES offend you, I probably wouldn’t like you anyway. So in the words of the illustrious Tupac, “I don’t give a f**k.” Read at your own risk.

  Last week at work, a white male co-worker was shocked when I told him that I prefer dating Korean/Asian men. When I then pointed out that all my ex-boyfriends have been Korean, he was literally stunned.

  STUNNED. He acted as though I had made a huge sacrifice by forgoing the opportunity to be with a white guy, also known as “God’s gift to women” in his eyes (gag me now).

  Little did I know that my nonchalant, casual comment would soon spread like wildfire. I had people coming up to me (both men and women) saying, “Is it really true that you only date Asian guys?” They treated my casual comment on my dating preference as a true shocker of the year. In my humble opinion, there is no way that such a reaction (shock, stunned, surprised, etc) would have occurred if I were, say Jewish or Black, and said that I preferred Jewish or Black men. So why is it such a shocker that I, as an Asian woman, would prefer dating an Asian man? Because this country has had a long (and I mean LONG) history of desexualizing and trivializing Asian men to the point that the masses just accept these stereotypes as being true. Let’s face it – Asian guys do have it a lot harder in this country than Asian women. Asian women have a history of being portrayed and seen as the sweet, submissive, Me-Love-You-Long- Time girl. And on the flip side, we have been viewed as being overly sexual for the white man’s pleasure (again, gag me now).

  

  Hollywood stereotypes stemming from characters like Long Duck Dong in Sixteen Candles have caused irreparable harm to the image of an Asian guy in this country (F**k you, John Hughes).

  

  While white men were the white knight, capable of saving the day AND getting the girl, the Asian guy was just the chump or the one-dimensional moron incapable of being attractive.

  However, growing up in a heavily Asian populated city, I always had Korean/Asian friends. I socialized with them, watched Korean dramas and idolized Korean boybands. In other words, I had an ALTERNATIVE viewpoint from Hollywood and the white man’s land that showed me that Asian men CAN be sexy, gallant, generous, talented, multifaceted and complex. My alternative media showed me different portrayals of Korean/Asian men not shown in America, which allowed me to not buy into the stereotypes and ridiculous bullshit that was being sold.

  What you looking at?

  However, I have noticed that some Asian women DO buy into that shit. And it’s both sad and irritating. While I have nothing against two random people falling in love by chance (Asian/White/Black/Whatever), I DO think it’s pathetic and lame when an Asian American woman proclaims, “I only date white men” or “I don’t date Asian guys.” Not only do I think it’s pathetic, I think they sound pathetic and just really, really stupid. Then when you ask these women why, they list a bunch of reasons that sounds more like it came from Hollywood Stereotypes 101 (unintentionally affirming that yes, they really ARE that stupid).

  The truth is, I would never want to date a white guy because I would never want to be perceived by the outside world as being THAT girl. Yes, I will sound like a bitch but fuck it, let me be honest – I wouldn’t want to walk with my white boyfriend in public for fear of looking like THAT girl. And I don’t want to be a seen as someone who bought into the bullshit that white media have been trying to sell about Asian guys for decades.

  One of my biggest fears is looking like this idiot to the outside world if I were to date a white guy: http://youtube.com/watch?v=Ft_kY5KgCnE

  Seriously, readers, what sucks more? Racist idiots or the self-loathing folks so desperate to sell out their own people and culture for white approval? Hmmm…tough call, ain’t it? (I choose the latter).

  Let’s not forget that (in my own experience), the white guys who ARE into Asian girls tend to be Creepy. Weird. Losers. Weird. Dorks. And Weird. Personally, a cool white guy has never approached me because these objectively cool white guys have plenty of options (mostly other cool white women). They don’t need to look outside their own dating pool to dip into some Suzie-Wong- Me-Love –You-Long-Time action. And if I hear “I once dated an Asian girl” come out of another white guy’s mouth as his opening line, I just might punch him. So if my choice is between some weird, creepy, stereotype-clutching white guy or holding out for my Asian prince (see below, Mr. Coffee Prince, July 4, haha), I will hold out for my prince any day of the week.

  And of course there’s the convenience factors – a Korean/Asian guy is more likely to understand my own struggles as a minority in the industry and in this country; we will likely enjoy eating the same foods (even if it’s kimchee everyday); and hopefully, he will be able to communicate with my parents and the rest of my family… at the very least, understand what they are saying OR implicitly understand the cultural values that are almost innate to us.

  Plus, I am attracted to Asian guys…and no, NOT LONG DUCK DONG.

  ** Note: I have nothing against interracial dating…but it is just not for me. Furthermore, these rules don’t apply to Asian men who score non-Asian women. Kudos to them for finding someone who isn’t blindly following the definition of what an Asian man is “supposed to be.”
  

  I’d found the enormous amount of comments (over 1000 and counting) left in the wake of her rant more interesting. I have a Asian friend who would be sympathetic to her viewpoint. Whenever an Asian female holding hands with a Caucasian guy cavort into view, he would annoyingly remark that the White Man “are taking all our women.”

  However, if we catch the rare glimpse of an Asian guy with a Caucasian woman, my friend would approvingly give the thumbs-up and uttering, “Well done, mate.”

  It’d just occurred to me while writing the above paragraph that since my move back to London two years ago, I haven’t seen any Asian guy with a female Caucasian partner in the capital. Before my move to Amsterdam, the sight were few and far between but it still existed. Has the pool of local Asian men been marginalised? Has the influx of male Mainlanders with their bad habits tarred the local Asians with the same brush?

  I’d also stumbled across this video clip relating to the blog above and found it entertaining enough to share:

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  Will It Ever Stop?

  Will Hollywood refrain from remaking foreign hits? Unlikely. This latest effort, an atrocious remake of the Korean smash, My Sassy Girl, is fresh of the production line and headed straight to DVD. And no wonder.

  

  I’d stopped watching the film twenty minutes in and proceeded to skip certain scenes in order to reach the end. That was exactly the method I’d adopted towards The Love Guru and that was starring the sexy Jessica Alba! For The Alba (as some guys at work have dubbed her), I’d painfully sat through the appalling Awake and the dreadful Good Luck Chuck. Thankfully, I’d abandoned the method altogether after five minutes of My Sassy Girl.

  

  Elisha Cuthbert is woefully miscast, her terrible performance rendering her character totally unbelievable. I half expected Jack Bauer (those who watch 24 will know) to parachute in to save us all from this awful film. Jesse Bradford, who plays the goofy one, was believably annoying complimented with a ear-grating voice to match. Nothing, of course, beats the original classic.

  Another rehash on the way is Quarantine, a remake of the excellent Spanish horror flick Rec. If you’d seen the trailer for Quarantine, the ending is already ruined for you. As I’d always rant to a fellow film buff colleague, some idiots just do not know how to cut trailers. If you’d already seen Rec then you will know what I mean.

  

  Heck, even the Quarantine poster has ruined the ending!

  

  I firmly believe Quarantine will not be a jot on the original. Watch Rec instead. I shudder to think what the remake of The Orphanage (another excellent Spanish horror film) will be like.

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  More Pics
  

  

  Pic taken with camera phone
  

  Spongebob Squarepants bidding goodbye before commiting suicide. Yes, Bob, do it! Jump!
  

  With no one wanting to pose one weekend, I’d decided to take a couple of snaps of my fellow photography enthusiast, Kim.

  

  

  Soon after, a female colleague readily agreed to model for me but with our busy schedules, it won’t be until October.

  
  

  I still hope to photograph babies and toddlers like these pics I’d took last year.

  

  

  Remaining on the subject of photography, I have decided to purchase a Canon Ixus 960 IS:

  

  Having grown frustrated with the limitations of camera phones, a digital compact camera should prove to be a sound investment. Especially for my next trip in three weeks – a wedding in Italy. I just do not want to lug around my Nikon D200 when going out in the evenings so this should suffice.

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  Naive Sailor

  A very naive British sailor is in a bar in London. He meets a wild girl, and she takes him upstairs. She takes off her pants and her panties.

  He looks between her legs and says, “What’s that?”

  She replies, “It’s me lower mouth.”

  He asks, “What do you mean ‘your lower mouth’?

  She says, “Just what I said, it’s me lower mouth. It’s got a moustache… It’s got lips…”

  He asks, “Has it got a tongue in it?”

  She replies, “Not yet…”

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  Sex Can Wait

  

   

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