July 2, 2007


  • Dealbreaker


    The notion of a “dealbreaker” in a dating situation seems to be an alien concept here in the UK. As far as I know, it’s an American creation. Anything you do whilst dating can constitute as a dealbreaker – an act or a behaviour that will, in the mind of that person you’re dating, be used as the excuse to end it. It could be anything – the way you talk, walk, eat, laugh, shop, dress, leaving the toilet seat up/down, taste in music/films, anything. I can’t speak for all Brits, only for myself, and I would take the time to get to know that person, flaws and all, before making any conscious decision to continue dating her.   


    What would be your dealbreaker, if any?





    Lucky Sod


    One week after I was away on my Asian trip, my colleague Marios discovered that Battlestar Galactica’s (BSG) Grace Park (Boomer/Sharon) was going to be in London for a convention. BSG is pretty popular among alot of my colleagues in my department and Grace Park is the one person from the TV show I would absolutely love to meet! Jealously ran through my veins when I’d returned from holiday to encounter Marios’ smug face. The guy had already met the other lovely ladies from BSG: Tricia Helfer (Number Six) and Katee Sackhoff (Starbuck) and now Grace. I could throttle the guy!



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    Marios dribbling all over Grace



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    “Say what? You want me to sign where? I don’t think so.”
     






    Asian Trip: Jade Dragon Snow Mountain, Lijiang, China


    Thursday 3rd May 2007 


    Jade Dragon Snow Mountain is 5,600 metres (18,400 feet) high with 13 peaks and home to over 6000 plant species, 400 kinds of trees and one third of China’s known species of medicinal herbs and plants. A cable car ride can transport you to 4,506 metres high to play in the snow and view in awe at the glaciers. Unfortunately for me, due to the high volume of local tourists during Labour Day week, tickets for that cable car ride for the entire day were sold out. At 9 o’clock in the morning! The next best thing was a cable car up to Spruce Plateau at an altitude of 3,100 metres.


    After meeting Han, Jiang, Obei and Shirley in the Old Town, we set off to look for a driver to transport us to the Mountain. Han managed to negotiate a fee of only RMB100 for a round trip to the Mountain for the five of us! For a foreign tourist like Shirley and myself, I would have been expecting to pay in the region of RMB500 per person.
     


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    Toll fee for entrance to the Mountain



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    Jade Dragon Snow Mountain from a distance



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    As close as my camera lens could reach



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    Our driver paying the toll fee



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    We’d disembarked at the Transport Terminal to pay for tickets and to board an official bus



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    I’d never seen men’s toilets like these



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    Hundreds of herbs on sale at the Terminal



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    Are those cowboys browsing something that resemble dried turd?



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    Waiting to board the cable car: Han, Jiang, Obei and Shirley



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    The view waiting in line



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    Corn-on-the-cob is a pretty popular snack – just don’t smile afterwards



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    During the process of queuing, the waiting tourists were either entertained or tortured depending on your taste in music. Personally, it was worse than listening to nails scratching on a blackboard.



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    The word being obscured read “Horrorific”. Still doesn’t make any sense though.



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    The godawful music coupled with his goddamn singing were extremely horrorific!



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    Upon arrival at Spruce Plateau, Han immediately reached for some oxygen. Not really required.



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    While Obei tucked into a boiled potato dipped in spices. I’d tried one and it was quite tasty.



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    Following the trail…



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    …leading to the meadow. The surroundings, with its roaming horses, goats and yaks, were enchanting and serene.



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    But I’d would rather be up there



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    Say “Communism”



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    Is he auditioning for the next season of Heroes?



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    Naxi attire. That’s Naxi, not Nazi.


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    Cable car ferrying up while we headed down



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    A short bus ride later, we were at White Water River where the melted snow from the Mountain flow down to. 



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    RMB500 for a ride on a water buffalo as Han demonstrates



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    The buffalo is lead up to the water terraces and then back again. What a waste of RMB500.



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    The view from the other side where the river flows to



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    Heading back to Lijiang



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    We had a drink at a British pub but we couldn’t decide on a destination for the following day. I’d toyed with the idea of going to Shangri-La but decided such a place of beauty deserves more than a couple of hours to truly appreciate it. Besides, I was bleary from four consecutive days of trekking and a respite was most welcome and paramount for my jaded body.   



    Murphy’s Law For Travel


    1. No flight ever leaves on time unless you are running late and need the delay to make the flight.
    2. If you are running late for a flight, it will depart from the farthest gate within the terminal.
    3. If you arrive very early for a flight, it inevitably will be delayed.
    4. Flights never leave from Gate #1 at any terminal in the world.
    5. If you must work on your flight, you will experience turbulence as soon as you touch pen to paper.
    6. If you are assigned a middle seat, you can determine who has the seats on the aisle and the window while you are still in the boarding area. Just look for the two largest passengers.
    7. Only passengers seated in window seats ever have to get up to go to the lavatory.
    8. The crying baby on board your flight is always seated next to you.
    9. The best-looking woman on your flight is never seated next to you.
    10. The less carry-on luggage space available on an aircraft, the more carry-on luggage passengers will bring aboard.



    Speed Limit?



     

Comments (21)

  • LOL @ #3 murphy’s law
    soo true *booo hiss*
    those photos are awesome!
    esp. love the mountain
    and meadow ones
    *breathes* fresh.

  • more fantastic pictures. Few dealbreakers. and ryc: Ain’t that the greatest thing? Of course, things are not quite right in too many places, but finally a generation will grow up in peace. I think I said in an old post that when you can charge £80 for a hotel room or shop at a M+S in the place that was the Fallujah of the 1970s and 80s, life has truly changed.

  • OH deal breaker!
    if he sneezes like a girl.
    i.e. the *hatchoOoOee*

  • When J and I went out for the first time, he walked ahead of me and didn’t open doors for me (Yeah, I used to be into the chivalrous thing).  I wouldn’t say it was a dealbreaker, but it was a complete turn-off.  Three years after that, he won me over with his personality. 

    Your pictures are so not horrorific.  Are you sure the “spices” covering the potatoe wasn’t just MSG? :)

  • Aw, sorry I didn’t pick you for my singer matching post. I do try to be fair and base it on whoever comments on a certain post – otherwise I could have about 50 people on the list that I’d have to find photos for. AHHH!

    So yeah, I totally have a crush on Grace Park. She is so gorgeous! And I love the show Battlestar Galactica.

    I didn’t realize that “dealbreakers” are an American thing. I have had many in the past – probably too many to mention. I love flaws in people and getting to know them but there are just certain things I could never tolerate in a person I was dating – if in fact I was dating with the intention to find the person I wanted to marry. So I couldn’t date someone that didn’t believe in God - if their religion was different than mine, it would be okay but I couldn’t date a true atheist. Also I couldn’t be with a smoker, alcoholic or someone who was abusive. And I have dumped guys for being messy talkers (like spitting or drooling), bad kissers and lacking intelligence.

  • RMB500?? theres no way it could be 500! tats so expensive! RMB50 more likely?

  • Mr. Fong, did I ever tell you that you looked like a younger version of my dad?

  • Deal-breakers *do* seem a very American phenomenon.  We need to be efficient, efficient, efficient: if there’s something about you remotely irritating we’d best dump you now instead of letting it wear away and irritate us until we end up divorcing ten years later.  After having dated you and married you, of course.

    I suppose there are some grievous things such as really poor manners or really inept social skills that would make me not inclined to continue dating.  People’s charms can be found in their flaws – it is what makes them human, after all – but there is a point where things that will just result in conflict are best avoided.

    Is it possible the obscured word is “honorific”?  That would make more sense.

  • Now, now. Play fair. Clearly it says “honorific” not “horrorific”. Still, it makes no sense whatsoever.

  • I have never ever heard of the term dealbreaker… O_o Also, I have no idea what battlestar galactica is.. O_o and about the Murphy’s law.. XD #3 is sooo true.. unfortunately for me. I’m always early for my flights just in case and so far the flight has always been delayed.. Or maybe it’s just coincidence.

    Ryc: Yeah.. that’s a different way of looking at it.. The way I see it.. Not all countries are as cool as the Netherlands =P

  • My boyfriend and I have been watching battlestar these last few weeks. I generally don’t do scifi shows, but I think this one is pretty good.

  • Hmm, every time I do have a dealbreaker, I inevitably end up meeting someone who defies it, and I change my mind. I guess it’s good that I’m open.

  • dealbreaker, huh?  i guess mine would be laughing like a hyena!  ahahahahaha  i don’t find many men who want to bring that home to mama.  hahahaha JK 

  • To me, a dealbreaker isn’t something small like leaving the toilet seat up. It’s more like when you’re dating someone who seems perfect for you in every way, and then one day, boom – you find out something that changes your opinion of them. ie. If you’re not into organized religion – like, really not into it, and then found out the person you were seeing wants to be a pastor or something. That’s what I’d call a dealbreaker. Not that I know anything about that. ;)

  • the only deal breaker i’d have is if he 1) used me as a punching bag and 2) was such a cheapskate that he’d yell at me for ordering soda when dining out (has been done to my friend).  i agree, grace park is beautiful!  though i’m just a fan, i’m so proud of my korean sista!!  corn on the cob is a popular snack too in my motherland.  and ryc: why is san francisco my favorite city?  i’m obsessed with water.  i love watching it, being near it, swimming in it, feeling it run through my hands, etc.  i find it relaxing and completely therapeutic.  i love seeing true diversity thorougly mixed in within society.  i love seeing the older generation asians being able to speak perfect english and really participating in/contributing to the city’s economy, culture and dynamics.  in the east coast us (where i am 99% of the time), a lot of the older asian are either store owners or doctors/lawyers with nothing in between.  that’s all tied in with us history and its immigration laws back then.  it’s also a beautiful city with tons of resources and all kinds of people - it’s a place where any freak (you, me, aren’t we all?) fits right in and can find a haven.  whew, that was a long comment!  great pictures, btw.  as usual. 

  • Dealbreaker? I need to find a dealmaker first!

    Say Communism is way to hard… and wait a minute, the kid is Chinese!!! It should be say something in Mandarin…

    Speed Limit. No? I’d love to drive there!!!

  • I love the pictures you took of the mountains! <3 and that sign.. XD wth.. makes absolutely no sense..

  • To me, bisexual would be a dealbreaker!

  • Oh my gawd, those photos are beautiful!  And the weather looks absolutely wonderful (compared to this nasty heat)…

    I think the obscured word is “honorific”…wow their English is “horrendous”.

    Dealbreaker…hmmm…let me get back to you on that.

  • P.S.

    probably not going to SF.  But I haven’t decided yet…

  • wah… ur pictures are almost like  professional ones… NICE

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