January 4, 2011
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Long Distance Relationships
And so another blog entry from yours truly. I can’t promise this will continue on a regular basis but let’s see how it goes.
I was having lunch the other day with a female friend and the topic of long distance relationships cropped up. It transpired both of us have had experience in this field. My last one floundered due to my lack of commitment in time and effort to sustain it. My friend ended hers when she asked her boyfriend outright if he was as committed to the relationship as she was. She was willing to give up everything in London to move to the US for him but considering he didn’t even answer… Well, that was proof enough. At the time I’d vowed never to have another LDR in preference to dating someone in my own city. My wish was granted but I’d ended up breaking up with her.
But now, in the beginning of this new decade, both my friend and I wouldn’t rule out another LDR if we meet the right person in the right location. By right location, I mean ease of access of transportation and communication. I don’t think the relationship will offer much sustainability if you have to fly to a country followed by hours on a bus journey with poor internet and telecommunication coverage to see your beau. Speaking for myself, I would have to be completely bowled over by her for me to commit to a LDR.
I’d met someone on one of my trips last year. She’d seemed to be bowled over by me (don’t know why
). But sadly, it wasn’t a reciprocal emotion on my part. Don’t get me wrong, she is an amazing person: warm, open, easy-going, smart, kind and didn’t mind my teasing her status. She wanted a LDR but I was honest to her about the difficulties of making it work. To cut a long story short, she has met someone else and I hope she is happy with this new guy. My point is that if I had felt the same as she did me then I would happily make the effort and time to make it work.
Top Ten Films Of 2010
The Producers Guild released their top ten films of the last year which offers an insight into what the Oscar contenders will be. I have seen all the films in their top ten except 127 Hours, The King’s Speech, and True Grit.
My Top Ten films of the previous year that I have seen in no particular order:
Inception
Winter’s Bone
The Secret In Their Eyes
The Social Network
The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo
The Kids Are All Right
Four Lions
Toy Story 3
Kick-Ass
Scott Pilgrim Vs. The WorldWhat is your top ten?
A Beard
A married man was visiting his “girlfriend” when she requested that he shave his beard. “Oh James, I like your beard, but I would really love to see your handsome face.”
James replied, “My wife loves this beard, I couldn’t possibly do it, she would kill me!!”
“Oh please?” the girlfriend asked again, in a sexy little voice…
“Oh really, I can’t,” he replies…”My wife loves this beard!!”
The girlfriend asked once more, and he sighs and finally gives in. That night James crawls into bed with his wife while she was sleeping.
The wife is awakened somewhat, feels his face and replies, “Oh Michael, you shouldn’t be here, my husband will be home soon!”
Dinner!
Comments (13)
that’s a big ol carp!
as for LDR, cant blame you for feeling the way you do. LDT is not for everyone. not to say that it won’t work because it certainly has worked for some people but yeah, for the most part, i think it’s tough and i certainly can’t see myself doing so. don’t worry bro, if its meant to be then it’s meant to be. 2011 should be a happier year for you. cheers.
Long distance relationships are especially challenging when there is no clear end game. Thankfully, both times that Tawn and I had to spent extended periods apart, we had a clear idea of how long that time apart would last and what would be the next step afterward.
Yeah, LDR’s aren’t for everybody and they can be quite the challenge. I think it’s true though, if you feel very strongly about the person and likewise with the other, more effort would be made to make it work. And time will tell.
That is a huge-ass fish…!
Yeah.. Been there done that. Definitely not ideal, and not something I’d choose for again, but I wouldn’t rule it out completely. If both parties are willing to put in the time and effort, it could work out. And it shouldn’t drag on for too long. At some point a decision has to be made, and someone needs to move. But that’s just my opinion.
I don’t think LDR’s can work when starting out…they may work in marriage though
I can’t believe The King’s Speech wasn’t on that list! It’s my favorite so far.
Happy New Year.
I’ve never been in a LDR before. It must take an incredible amount of patience, trust, sacrifice and commitment.
btw – it’s great to see you writing regularly again. I hope the next one isn’t “Happy 2012″.
All the best for you in 2011 David. Take care.
Agh, LDR relationships are so hard. I don’t think I would every do one again!
Glad to hear from you again!
I didn’t even HEAR of any of those movies, except social network and toy story 3. Hollywood is definitely making movies mostly for the demographic that is still in school.
had 2 LDRs. got the psychological attachments and at the same time, freedom!
@CareyGLY - The King’s Speech wasn’t out in the UK last year. I’d saw it yesterday and think it’s great! Colin Firth captured the difficulties of stammering very well… I’m a mild stammerer myself.
@Kevin72 - Winter’s Bone, The Secret In Their Eyes, The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo and Four Lions are definitely not for the kids!
@jarude - definitely agree with the freedom!
Wow, I didn’t know you were a mild stammerer. The movie must have really resonated with you then. I was glad to see Colin Firth win the Golden Globe. Now it’s on to Oscar!